Check this out before saying I do
Walking down the isle saying your vows and smiling to that one person you love most in the world is the dream of every man or man. But a lot of men and women do this out of ignorant, without proper thoughts or knowledge of what comes after the sweet “down the isle memory”. When all exchange of vows and butterfly in the stomach is gone they are now faced with the reality of their union. Sadly at this point the option for many will be divorce but, you would agree with me that divorce is not always the best in some cases if the couples had done their pre marital assignment well.
Check this out before saying I do. In this article, we will discuss some vital information or facts some men and women need to know before saying I do the man or woman of their dreams.
Things to look out for are:
- Their believe. In as much as you both might love each other so much but you need to check if both of you believe in the same faith because most times, love is not just enough. Does your faith agree with each other in terms of values, do you too have something in common? often times after the sweet I do, it seems as if you married the wrong man or woman due to constant disagreement but checking your believes would have saved your marriage the stress and emotional pain.
- Their likes or dislikes. It is very important to know your partners or significant others likes or dislikes for a blissful home. To avoid stories that touch the heart and statement like “you do not love me anymore” you must be able to tell what your partner likes or dislikes by so doing you will be able to love each other better.
- Family background. This is very important yet the much over looked when it comes to things to check out before saying I do. Have you heard the saying “you did not just marry their child, you married the whole family” yes it is very true! for example in some African countries the family decide who who their son or daughter will marry. So before saying I do, check his or her family background, it is something you will be willing to cope with after marriage? do they have strong moral value which is different from yours? and do you feel it might pose as a barrier to a blissful marriage? well if your answer is yes then you need to give that union a second thought.
- How many kids he or she wants to have. You might feel this is not necessary until after marriage you hear something like “I can not bear four kids” for reasons like my body will change, it will pose as a hinderance to my career, or I can not take care of four kids financially. hahahahahahah! then you will be shocked wondering if it is the same person you you married who promised to love you deeply, encouraging yourself with the quote that if he or she loves you they will do things that makes you happy or do what you want. The open truth is that you must ask and check this sign to make sure you both are on the same page and have common interest.
- Their love language. I know you are wondering if love has a language and what kind of language does love speak? the answer is quit simple, your partner love language is what makes him or her feel loved and special. Some of the love languages are: physical touch, quality time, act of service, giving, words of affirmation, and so on. You must find out which of these languages makes your partner feel loved or special. For only then can you get the best after saying I do!
- Temperament. Well well! hot temper is a very bad trait that should not be ignored before saying I do. Check how he or she manages their temper to avoid had I known. Not being able to control ones temper has led many to their early grave so it is very very important to check if they have temper issue and if yes, is it something you can live with or put under control?
If fifty percent of men and women can check out some of the signs mentioned above then there will be few heart breaks or broken homes.
